Problems with women dating younger men
Maybe women feel that because girls have a head start on maturity back in the seventh grade, our emotional and spiritual equals must forever be at least five years older than we are.
After 12 increasingly dreary years capped by a wrenching divorce, I couldn't imagine why women in my situation (childless divorcées) complained about the prospect of reentering single life. Wasn't finally having some laughs, romance, and excitement the way to take the "crisis" out of "midlife"?Parties, rock concerts, nightclubs—I dated the way I should have when I was younger: for fun, without an eye toward marriage. Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.From salt-and-pepper George Clooneys to silver-fox Harrison Fords, young women are swooning over smooth older men more than ever.These days the idea of young women dating older – often significantly older - men barely raises an eyebrow. A long stints in an asylum for the criminally insane? But just because she hasn’t shared a similar experience, don't feel that she wouldn't relate to your life or your issues; open up and you never know what wisdom she could offer."This is nothing compared to the long lines during the oil crisis," I say to my husband, Bronson, as he pulls into a particularly crowded Mobil station near the Holland Tunnel. Or could it be caused by something as shallow and immediate as a woman's not wanting anyone to think her date is her younger brother or, God help us, her son?
People were siphoning fuel from their neighbors' cars in the dead of night! She's older than he is, you know." Does our culture's collective discomfort with a reversal of the usual younger woman–older man dynamic come, as scientists suggest, from a deep-rooted evolutionary instinct that drives women to choose the wiser, older, more powerful alpha male over the untested young buck?
I look at him, stunned that he could forget such a big part of 1973. You'd really dig it." Or "Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins!
We've been together for seven years now, and I'm so used to considering Bronson my peer that I often forget about our 13½-year age difference. In the beginning, if I wasn't thinking, Is he too young for me? someone else was thinking it for me—and blurting out, "Hey, have you seen How Stella Got Her Groove Back?
But just because you were her age once, it doesn’t mean that dating a young woman is always plain sailing. Whatever the age gap, here’s how to date a younger women successfully. Youth might imply less experience, but it doesn’t mean a lack of empathy, nous and emotional intelligence.
And remember, it's kind of sexy when a man feels empowered enough to discuss his feelings.
There are enough hurdles to making a relationship work, however old you are, so why let age add more stress?